Lately I've been reading a lot about people who have ‘followed their heart’ and ended up finding what they were looking for. However, what do I mean by that?
Us humans have something in common; we all have dreams and aspirations. We wish upon a star, we day dream, we paint dreams, we wrap our troubles in our dreams, sometimes we have unrealistic dreams but we hold on to them and keep on dreaming.
Some of us want to be loved. Some want to be rich. Some want to learn French. Some want to change professions, or get a divorce.
Where do all these desires come from? In my opinion, they come from within, from deep in your core. But why us human beings don't act on our desires as much as we would like? What is holding us back? Why are we so scared? When the time to make important decisions in life comes, are we choosing what we really desire or what is known as right? Are we opting for a profession based on the financial or personal satisfaction? Are we marrying the Mr. ‘Right Guy’ or the man we love and make us happy? Why not to learn French or become famous if that's what you wish...
The problem is that we are all scared and the lack of confidence doesn't allow people to follow their dreams. The development of self-esteem feelings starts very early in life. For example, back home, every parent is proud to hear when their kids says they want to become a lawyer or a doctor (well, here is no different). Why? Because normally in Brazil you can make money with these professions but what if their kid says that they want to be an actor? Most likely the parents would encourage him or her to focus on a profession that brings good financial return and study acting on the side. The problem is there is no such thing as ‘doing something on the side’. Once you start getting involved with a profession or relationship your energy and emotions are concentrated to make that work. So, if the relationship is not exactly the relationship you aspire or if profession you chose is not the profession you love, guess what is going to end up happening? You will eventually get frustrated, not motivated, unhappy and ready for a change because at that point you probably have achieved your ‘comfort zone.’
Most of us live day in and out inside of our comfort zone and let's face it - we are all scared of stepping out of it. The ultimate challenge is to step away, yet this first single step can be the hardest. Sometimes it feels nearly impossible to do it when the majority of the world survives off of routine and structure. Well, you should stop and think: "What is the worst that could happen?" I can guarantee you that the worst is NEVER that bad.
We all have to learn how to step away from our comfort zones and enjoy everything life has to offer otherwise whenever we finally decide to make a move it might just be too late. That's when we see parents forcing their own frustrations in their kids, trying to make them "be" what they wish they "had been,” or worse, it could be mentally so stressful that people could be depressed or even get cancer! Then, everything becomes a cycle, an unhealthy cycle, one thing leads to another and problems start to arise.
How can you find the cure? By finding the cause; finding out what doesn't make you happy and changing it - is that simple!! Doing what you love and worrying less about what people are going to think or say. Satisfaction has to come from within.
Always remember - What's the worst that could happen?
Us humans have something in common; we all have dreams and aspirations. We wish upon a star, we day dream, we paint dreams, we wrap our troubles in our dreams, sometimes we have unrealistic dreams but we hold on to them and keep on dreaming.
Some of us want to be loved. Some want to be rich. Some want to learn French. Some want to change professions, or get a divorce.
Where do all these desires come from? In my opinion, they come from within, from deep in your core. But why us human beings don't act on our desires as much as we would like? What is holding us back? Why are we so scared? When the time to make important decisions in life comes, are we choosing what we really desire or what is known as right? Are we opting for a profession based on the financial or personal satisfaction? Are we marrying the Mr. ‘Right Guy’ or the man we love and make us happy? Why not to learn French or become famous if that's what you wish...
The problem is that we are all scared and the lack of confidence doesn't allow people to follow their dreams. The development of self-esteem feelings starts very early in life. For example, back home, every parent is proud to hear when their kids says they want to become a lawyer or a doctor (well, here is no different). Why? Because normally in Brazil you can make money with these professions but what if their kid says that they want to be an actor? Most likely the parents would encourage him or her to focus on a profession that brings good financial return and study acting on the side. The problem is there is no such thing as ‘doing something on the side’. Once you start getting involved with a profession or relationship your energy and emotions are concentrated to make that work. So, if the relationship is not exactly the relationship you aspire or if profession you chose is not the profession you love, guess what is going to end up happening? You will eventually get frustrated, not motivated, unhappy and ready for a change because at that point you probably have achieved your ‘comfort zone.’
Most of us live day in and out inside of our comfort zone and let's face it - we are all scared of stepping out of it. The ultimate challenge is to step away, yet this first single step can be the hardest. Sometimes it feels nearly impossible to do it when the majority of the world survives off of routine and structure. Well, you should stop and think: "What is the worst that could happen?" I can guarantee you that the worst is NEVER that bad.
We all have to learn how to step away from our comfort zones and enjoy everything life has to offer otherwise whenever we finally decide to make a move it might just be too late. That's when we see parents forcing their own frustrations in their kids, trying to make them "be" what they wish they "had been,” or worse, it could be mentally so stressful that people could be depressed or even get cancer! Then, everything becomes a cycle, an unhealthy cycle, one thing leads to another and problems start to arise.
How can you find the cure? By finding the cause; finding out what doesn't make you happy and changing it - is that simple!! Doing what you love and worrying less about what people are going to think or say. Satisfaction has to come from within.
Always remember - What's the worst that could happen?
People that suddenly decided to change their lives in search of happiness have always fascinated me. Elizabeth Gilbert, the author of the memoir ‘Eat, Pray and Love’ is an example, she would never had found herself and what she wanted from life if she hadn’t made a "move" - ask for a divorce, take a year off from work and go around the world living life to the fullest. Obviously, not all of us have the luxury of doing that. Nevertheless we can all start from somewhere.
Andrea Bocelli loved music and singing his whole life but didn’t really see it as a career possibility so he got a law degree from the University of Pisa. At the age of 34 he decided to do what he always loved and became very successful at it.
Believe in the voice that comes from within . Get out of your comfort zone and have the courage to run after what you believe. Life is too short - Don't be afraid of changes. You have the power of making crushing events into opportunities as long as you are not scared.
Thanks Angelina - Love you!
Just loved!!! Arizocas!!!
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